Everyone loves a wedding, right? The gorgeous dresses, the little flower girls, the men in suits. Not to mention the food, the dancing and the cake. But then there are the traditions that are part and parcel of tying the knot. Some of these traditions are starting to seem a little old fashioned, out-dated or just silly, and leave you far more inclined to play Blackjack online for fun, rather than take part.
We’ve had a good, long think about weddings, and we think these traditions need to be kicked to curb – read on and see if you agree…
Garter And Bouquet Toss
Talk about seeming a little out-dated. The garter and bouquet tosses seem outright daft in modern times.
You see, back in the day, getting married was foremost on everyone’s agenda, and most were keen to do so before their thirties. Or, before their twenties if we’re going to be honest about ‘ye olde times.’ This eagerness had a great deal to do with most not living to be forty, never mind going grey. So, young marriage, preferably that bore many children, was best for everyone, since we would have gone extinct otherwise. Hence; initiating new romances at every opportunity was a much-needed tradition, and thus we have things like tossing garters and bouquets into crowds.
Today, the tradition seems a little off, not in the least because it puts all the single people in the spotlight, but also because many brides are rather attached to their bouquets, and flowers can cost a fortune!
Cake Face Smash
This can actually still be a cute tradition if you are into it. It lightens the mood, allows everyone to ease into the festivities and can make for some silly photos. However, some brides spend a great deal of time on makeup, hair, and choosing the perfect outfit. So, chances are they’d rather not have cake smashed in their face. You can safely skip this altogether, or at least be sure everyone is comfortable with it.
Family Of The Bride Forks Out
Hooray! My little angel is getting married! Wait, how much? Faint.
Truth be told, this one isn’t followed that closely these days, and for obvious reasons. Fathers of the bride, you may now breathe a collective sigh of relief.
Most families are more than willing to work things out and make a mutually agreeable plan for all involved. Many brides and grooms will even contribute to the event themselves. Point is; this is a horrible tradition, and very much not necessary.
No Looking Before The Ceremony
This one really is a gem. Back in those ‘olde days’ there were many arranged marriages. In many cases, the two supposed to be married had never seen one another, and it was kept that way on purpose. Why? Because one or the other may try back out upon seeing the person they were supposed to spend the rest of their life with, and run for the hills. Charming, right?
Although the arranged marriage part is not exactly common anymore, the not seeing one another aspect has remained. Which is pretty bizarre. It can be very comforting for the bride and groom to spend time together before the ceremony, help one another with jitters, and perhaps even take a few cute photos together.
A White Dress and Veil
The tradition of a veil is very much linked to the bride and groom not seeing one another before the ceremony, but as this can go out the window now, so too can the veil. These days, veils tend to be more of a fashion statement than anything else, and are purely down to personal choice.
The white gown is even more steeped in tradition and became a popular symbol of innocence and virginal purity. But now, most couples cohabit long before they get married, so innocence and purity has died a quiet death. We say wear whatever colour you like, it’s your special day!
Are we going back to ‘ye olde’ times for this one again? Yes we are. The matching bridesmaid dresses were apparently to confuse evil entities that pitched up at the party, and we can all agree that this is a little daft these days. Though, if you like this tradition, there is no harm in keeping it alive. But just be very sure that all the bridesmaids can indeed take part and pull off the desired matching dress. Make sure in advance as well. A last minute wardrobe malfunction is not what you want.
Gender Based Events
And then we have the ancient gender based wedding traditions. Is there anything sillier than a bride having to snub her best friend as a maid of honour because he is male? We say have a man of honour, or a best woman if that is the desire, or whatever else you might prefer. It really isn’t a restriction these days, and your wedding will be just as good if you mix up the ‘gender norms’!